Updated: May 28, 2020
Disclosure, my husband felt like a right dick taking this pic, but I assured him it would help me convey my message…..
The husband and wife tap out in our house is basically the understanding of me saying….’ ok you’re home, I’ve kept our small humans alive for my shift, now it’s your turn’.
Being a mum is 100% the hardest job I’ve ever done. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. If it were a paying job I probs would have quit in the first week!
In the beginning I found it extremely hard to ask for help. I thought holding the title of ‘mum’ meant I was supposed to do everything. Everyday. That asking for help meant I was a bad mum who wasn’t coping and I felt guilty for wanting time away from my kids. Well now I call bull sh*t to those thoughts and tap out when I need to.
At first it was to get sleep, then it was to have a bath, then when the kids were sleeping more it was to go exercise. Now with this business of mine, it is to go and work. It’s the time away from the kids I need to have some time for myself and to re-energise mentally.
Whether it be your partner, your mum or a friend (basically anyone you trust), I feel it important to have a tap out partner. I do however understand this sometimes isn’t possible. When we lived remotely, I had to put the kids in daycare for one day as I had no family support to help me. Daycare is also a great tap out option.
Us mamas need to know that there isn’t any shame in wanting and needing time out to recharge. Whether you have 1 child or 5, having another human with you that you’re responsible for 24/7 wears you down and you need a break. We need to know we aren’t failures for asking for help and that a little time out will not only make us feel better but it will also make us better mum's.
Ask for help when you need it and look after you so you can look after your kiddies and don’t feel guilty for wanting some time out for YOU.
If you’re not already doing this, why not try it? Tap out and take some time out for you.